Control and Influence – Can I Negotiate My Way Through Christmas? Family dynamics at Christmas can be at their most tense as people who don’t usually spend that much time together, probably because they’re quite different to each other are brought together in one place. Add alcohol and bad weather into that mix (“I can’t […]
Some Days They Win… …so Personal Resilience, Sustainability and Motivation are Really Important Who are they, these people who win? For me, they are the people who don’t treat us as we would like to be treated, as we treat other people. The people who don’t seem to value kindness, consideration and respect. They might […]
I Do Wish People Would Stop Agreeing With Me….. That’s not really true, I love it when people agree with me!! ? The thing I’m getting frustrated with is when I talk to people about how we, as a society seem to have become very much averse to having difficult conversations with each other, they […]
Personal Development? It’s Easier Not To Bother Isn’t It? I was teaching this week, the second day of a three day Developing Personal Confidence course and the people in the group were wonderful ? They all engaged really well and shared their experiences which has a real value, I think when we’re focusing on our […]
Are We Being Disabled by Social Expectations? The world has very much changed in the last 70 years and much of that is a very positive thing. Unmarried Mothers are no longer sent away to give birth in secret, filled with shame by their family’s and other people’s views. The notion that as long as […]
What’s Your Offer? If you were in a Dragon’s Den type scenario today, selling yourself what would you say? “I’d like £1million investment for 0.5% of my business (me, myself and I incorporated) and this is why you should invest in me…..” Yeeks! I find it quite scary even watching Dragon’s Den, let alone putting […]
Hi everyone, I read a newspaper article recently where a Mum of three children in their 20’s who were all at University described herself as a ‘lawn-mower Mum’, as she would do anything to remove obstacles from their daily lives to allow them to focus on their studies. Tasks that included de-frosting the fridge, co-ordinating […]
Hi everyone, We all have limiting and enabling beliefs, the challenge is to try and stay focused on the more enabling ones and not be disabled by the limiting ones. That can be difficult though, as the negatives seem to stick a lot flippin harder in our minds than the positives! Limiting beliefs can often […]
Hi everyone, We’re all a bit stuck in our ways aren’t we? I say I don’t like routine but much of my life looks pretty routine to me when I think about it! Having routines and preferred ways of doing things makes us feel safe. It also allows us to function in groups, particularly in […]
Hi everyone, I’m loving the phrase ‘less than helpful’ at the moment as it helps me to hold myself and other people to account without triggering my stress response, getting wound up and frustrated. Sometimes I say the phrase out loud, to the person or myself and sometimes I just say it in my head […]
